Believe me, I have tried my hardest NOT to pray for patience...I have been warned what God does when you pray for patience... He sends trials. And me, I don't like trials. I like easy, I like comfortable, I like smooth.
Problem is, it's not about what I want or what I like. And it's not a choice we get, to pray for patience. It's a command, it's the fruit of the Spirit, its an attribute of love, it's a must as a believer!
Some people may not understand this and some people may think I'm sinning in saying this, but my trial... It was having four kids in four and a half years while living in a two bedroom trailer! Uncomfortable to say the least. I've worked through a lot of it (had some counseling) and some of life has gotten easier... hello, no diapers, no midnight feedings, no cribs, no packing half the house just to run to the store. But it has also gotten harder... talking back, whining, always hungry, the bickering amongst themselves, the constant questions, the constant noise! I get headaches a lot!!
But my kids also teach me a lot ... about patience! Especially when I am trying to teach them a little bit more about being patient with each other! Funny thing, how kids are always so good in teaching me, they can be such a reflection of me (and not always a pretty one).
Patience comes from trials and tribulations; we know that even if we don't like it. It's found in Romans 5 (knowing that tribulation worketh patience; And patience, experience...)
and James 1 (Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.)
It's a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering...
It's an attribute of love (I Corinthians 13) love is patient, bears all things
It's also something that Paul prays for the saints in his epistles (Colossians 1:9-12) We pray for you... that you might be... Strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness;
JOY is often mentioned in correlation with patience. And while I haven't figured it all out yet, I realize that I'm going to have trials whether I pray for patience or not. And me living out patience is the Will of God... so I just keep working on it and keep praying because it's only through the power of the Holy Spirit that I will be able to express patience. (<-- Tweet that!)